Bergen County Parental Alienation Attorneys
Although certain studies conducted in recent years suggest the age-old adage that says “half of marriages end in divorce” may no longer be accurate, it is a fact that a considerable number of divorces and separations occur within Bergen County and elsewhere throughout New Jersey. When these divorcing or separating couples have children, the parents themselves may attempt to utilize their children to either bolster their own self-esteem and/or inflict emotional pain and anguish on the other parent. By word or by deed, one parent may attempt to make the other parent experience the loss of his or her child’s affections and love. When these efforts arise, these efforts may be described as parental alienation.
Although nearly every Bergen County divorce and child custody judge opposes parental alienation efforts, these alienation efforts occur in Bergen County with frightening regularity. The parent against whom these efforts are directed may feel hopeless: as if he or she is without any recourse or strategy to bring a halt to these efforts. Aretsky Law Group, P.C. understands the feelings of hopelessness and frustration that you may be experiencing if your child’s other parent is engaging in alienating behaviors. Not only do we at Aretsky Law Group, P.C. want to help you, our experience, knowledge, and resources enables us to provide you with exceptional legal counsel during this difficult period.
Defining and Describing Parental Alienation in Bergen County
Parental alienation can come about because of any action, behavior, and/or word whose purpose is to cause a child to lose affection for or no longer desire to develop a parent-child relationship with one parent or the other. While efforts aimed at alienating a child from his or her parent can be committed by any person – the other parent, a grandparent, a teacher, and/or a family friend, for instance – in many cases a child’s parent attempts to alienate the child from his or her other parent. Parental alienation can occur through:
- Badmouthing the other parent in front of the child or revealing negative and/or embarrassing information about the other parent to the child that serves no legitimate purpose;
- Suggesting that a young child need not follow a court-ordered visitation schedule or can skip visits with the other parent at the child’s whim;
- Preventing the child from visiting with and/or speaking with the other parent;
- Denying the other parent the opportunity to see or visit with the child on important or significant occasions such as Mother’s/Father’s Day, the other parent’s and/or child’s birthday, and/or other such momentous occasions; and/or
- Refusing to permit the other parent to participate in significant decisions concerning the child’s wellbeing or upbringing.
For the other parent – the target of parental alienation activities – oftentimes these efforts remain hidden and secret unless and until (1) the child brings these actions, words, and behaviors to the attention of the other parent; and/or (2) the child begins to want to see the other parent less and less. If the other parent fails to take appropriate legal action, the other parent’s relationship with the child can be irreparably damaged. Not only can this cause significant emotional pain and suffering for the other parent, but it may also have adverse consequences on the child.
New Jersey Statutes Afford Both Parents an Opportunity to Be Involved in the Child’s Life
New Jersey’s statutes not only permit both of a child’s parents to be involved in the child’s life, but actually presume such an arrangement to be in the best interests of the child. New Jersey Revised Statutes Section 9:2-4 specifically directs courts overseeing divorce and/or child custody to treat each parent as equals and to enter those orders regarding custody and visitation that will maximize the opportunity for each parent to play a significant role in the life of the child and to exercise the greatest amount of time in the physical presence of the child as is possible under the circumstances.
Parental alienation efforts and actions undercut this stated goal, and are opposed by nearly every court and judge in Bergen County. Before a court or judge can enter orders and/or sanctions bringing a halt to parental alienation in your case, however, the court must be made aware that this activity is taking place. At Aretsky Law Group, P.C., we take pride in taking swift action on behalf of parents who are being shut out of their children’s lives by the actions of others. We will file the appropriate legal motions on your behalf and support your allegations with sufficient evidence and testimony to convince the judge hearing your case that immediate intervention by the court is necessary to preserve your parental rights and your relationship with your child.
Speak with Aretsky Law Group, P.C. right away about your parental rights and how to protect them against parental alienation efforts. Call us at 1-800-537-4154 today.